Tuface Idibia @ 40: Marriage not as scary as people say

 

Pop icon, Tuface Idibia, who clocks 40 on September 18, has de­clared that the best decision of his career was tying the knot with his heartthrob of many years, Annie Idibia, whom he married on March 23, 2013.
In an exclusive chat with Entertainer, Tuface, who has wrapped up plans for a superlative celebration of his 40 years on mother earth disclosed thus: “The decision to stick to music is one of my best de­cisions but getting married to my wife, Annie is the best decision I have ever made. Also, going solo in 2004 was another best decision of my life.”
Three years after, how is he enjoying the institution of marriage?
A smile creases his features and his eyes lit up as he responds: “It’s not been easy-o but at the same time, it’s not as scary as people make it look. However, mar­riage is not a walk through the park; it’s not a tea party.
“Marriage also is not only about enjoyment always. Just like roses have thorns, you must learn to give and take because marriage is just like work. What you put in is what you get but it becomes hell when you are married to someone and you both don’t understand yourselves.”
Commenting on what attracted him to his wife whom he stared dating way back in the late 1990s, Tuface continues: “Her personality really matters to me a lot. She is hard working, very friendly and beautiful and all these qualities joined together just blew my mind.”
While Tuface is always on tour, Annie is an actress with a very tight schedule, how do they find time to spend together you may ask? Tuface says the basic truth is that time must be created for a marriage to work hence so they time out hang out, go shopping and do things husbands and wives do.
All may be rosy on the surface but Tuface admits that like every other marriage, sometimes he and Annie do have spats. When this happens, who apologises first?
“It depends on who caused the fight,” Tuface con­tinues beaming with a smile, “sometimes I look for trouble and still wait for her to apologise and at other times she’s at fault and still wants me to apologise. But most of the time I’m the person that apologises first because you know women and their Wahala,” he says with a soft laugh.
Forty years after, when he looks back, is there any­thing he wishes he could have done differently?
“I’m not one that likes to regret. I feel that whatever happens has happened. The only thing I think is how to blend and turn things around positively. I don’t just sit down, fold my hands and regret. Instead I re-adjust and re-align and forge ahead.”
Today having done over 100 collabos with up-and-coming acts and still counting, Tuface no doubt has a legion of sons and daughters breaking new grounds in the music scene. What is his take on contemporary Nigerians music?
“We’re actually there because now we have good quality. Our sound has improved in terms of tech­niques, sounds and quality because now, many people pay attention to music and the young guys are really working hard and they are following in the footsteps laid down for them already. I’m really proud of these young ones.”
Dreams
With his achievements one would think that Tuface has achieved his dreams. But no, the reverse is the case. Tubaba as he’s popularly called says he is still hungry for new conquests.
“I’m somewhere now but not exactly the place or position I want. I thank God that we’ve moved from where we started almost 20 years ago but I still want to go far. I have not fulfilled my dreams and goals yet; I’m still hungry to achieve other things as a business man and not just as a musician because there are so many things I still want to achieve.”

FIFA PresidencyNo better candidate than Kalu – Pastor James

 Former Abia State governor, Dr. Orji Uzor Kalu, to become the next FIFA President has been described as the best thing to happen to Africa.
Chancellor of the Akpabiosm Centre for Leadership Development and Convener of the Southern Youths Development Forum, Pastor Bassey James, who made this submission yesterday in an interview with Sunsports, stated that there is no better candidate than Kalu for the FIFA job.
His words: “I think it Dr. Orji Kalus’s aspiration is the best thing to happen to Nigeria, Africa and the Black Race. For the first time in the history of Nigeria and Africa, the country won the CAF Cup back-to-back, through Enyimba International Football Club, when he was the governor of Abia State. He transformed the club completely and this motivated the team to put in their utmost best.
“Again, as the pillar of sports, he inspired innovations in the management of sports and particularly football. He has been able to establish himself in the hearts of people across Nigeria, Africa and the world.
“He is one of the few notable African business leaders with a real love and passion for football development in the continent and a great eagerness to see a radical improvement in the management of the round leather game. He has contributed immensely to the transformation of the football landscape. So, for Kalu to join the contest for FIFA leadership is a plus for us. It is a plus, plus, plus.”

LADIES!! Do you want a bigger Boods? Natural Ways Of Getting Your B00bs Bigger In Few Days nd Guys help your Girls

Women who are not naturally endowed in the breast department may feel a little inadequate, especially since most men like women with ‘visible’ boobs. Many small-breasted ladies, have resorted to breast augmentation surgery to correct this seeming defect.

 However, not only is there a high risk of contracting breast cancer after this surgery, some women have been left permanently dissatisfied with the results afterwards. Others have turned to different breast enlargement drugs and creams, which manufacturers swear would increase the bust size in a few weeks or months. Unfortunately, some of these drugs come with their own damaging side effects as well. Nevertheless, all hope is not lost.

You can actually get bigger and fuller boobs naturally, without breast enlargement surgery or using harmful drugs. Here are 11 tips on how to make that happen:
1. Rub your hands together as fast and as much as you can. This activity will generate heat and energy. Stop when you feel extreme heat in your hands.
 2. Put your hands on your breasts.
 3. Start rubbing your breasts inwardly with your hands. Continue rubbing your warm hands around your breasts in a circular motion.
 4. Do not put your hands on your nipples when massaging your breasts.
 5. Circle your right breast with your right hand in a clockwise direction.
 6. Your left hand should be moving an anti-clockwise direction around your left hand as you look down.

 7. Do these circular rubs for at least 100 to 300 times in the morning after taking bath and repeat the same massage at night before you go to sleep.
 8. Each circular rub should last for at least 2 seconds.
 9. You can pause occasionally to generate heat in your palms by rubbing your hands together.
 10. The complete 100 to 300 circular rubs should maximum 10 – 15 minutes.
11. Do this simple massage to increase a cup size within 30 days.

Guys! see what happens when a Man makes love to a pregnant Woman

 Is it possible for a man to poke the baby in the head with the tip of his pen’is while he’s having se’x with his partner or wife? Before we tell you if the answer is– “yes” or “no,” first, a brief anatomy lesson.The growing baby is floating inside a sac of amniotic fluid which is floating inside the amniotic sac inside the uterus. The uterus is protected by the cervix, a rigid barrier to the va’gina which slowly opens over the course of the pregnancy.

The birth canal is 3 to 7 inches in length, depending on the woman’s state of aro’usal. The ultrasound picture above is of an actual penis inside a woman who is 6 months pregnant. The white colored area above the pen’is is the cervix. Beyond that is the uterus, amniotic sac and baby. As you can see, the direction of the pen’is is down. During s’ex, the pen’is fits in a space underneath the cervix and uterus. So, what’s the answer? Can you poke the baby in the head during se’x with the tip of the p’enis?

 No. It’s not possible, because the baby is protected behind the rigid cervix, uterus, and amniotic fluid. ALTHOUGH… It is possible to “jostle” the baby. Wait. What? Yes. It’s possible for a man, regardless of his pe’nis’ length, to gently jostle or push the baby. However… It’s no more of a jostle than the baby would experience if the pregnant woman were to run up a set of stairs or to exercise. As you can see from the photo, it’s quite possible for the shaft of the pen’is to “brush up against” the cervix, which could, in turn, “jostle” the contents of the amniotic sac… and thus, “jostle” the growing baby.

5 things women NEVER tell their men

Okay, we know the most common one: most women lie about the “O” word. But there are other things besides that the modern woman lies about. Very often!
THEIR first gig
For most adult women, the first sexual experience is unforgettable and probably the best ever. Even if they have not kept in touch with their first man, they remember him with fondness if he did not leave them pregnant and stranded with a baby.
But will they ever tell their man this? Never.
Studies show the average woman lies about the age at which she was disvirgined, adding anything between 2 and 10 years to the age. For instance, if a woman got disvirgined at 14, she is likely to put the figure at 20 to her current man. Men, on the other hand, openly boast about their earlier sexual conquests.
That they check out other men
A man might be so close to the girl in his life that he would point out other women’s body parts that he finds attractive and everybody would have a good laugh. On the other hand, a woman would never do that. If she thinks the guy next door has a cute ass, she never, ever mentions it to the man in her life. Not only would she not mention it, she would never ever even make the blunder of oogling the attractive derriere when their man is around. Studies show women make lewd jokes about other men when they are with girlfriends just as much as men do, and they even fantasie but are great about hiding it.
That she hates cooking
A few years down the line, many relationships run into crisis on this account- many many women just do not like to cook.
In our part of the world, girls are raised not only to learn how to cook but to happily cook for other people for the rest of their lives, three times a day. If they cannot live up to that ‘simple’ responsibility, they are complete failures, especially in relationships.
Women are therefore happy to pretend to be kitchen genies at the beginning of relationships and would never admit to not just absolutely loving cooking. Rather, they prefer to give their man the impression that they live just to feed him as many times as possible in a day. Unfortunately, that impression is bound to waste when she insists of going out for dinner every so often when the relationship is established.
She feels insulted when he gives her money
Of course nothing makes your man feel grander than knowing he has met his woman’s need and probably even exceeded her expectations, especially if he had to bend over backwards to do it. Studies show the average woman is actually disappointed almost every time their man gives them a gift, especially when it is money.
Truth is, today’s working women have developed very sophisticated tastes that their men can barely keep up with, and they are ready to work very hard when it’s necessary to do so. But would a woman ever complain her man has not even scratched the surface when he gives her cash? Never.
She does not trust him
For all her freedoms and liberation, a woman is far less likely than a man to voice her insecurities in a relationship that the other way round.
She has watched her mother look the other way more often than not. She has heard her aunt tell her uncountable times of how it’s a man’s world. She has been called names just for showing a flash of jealousy and she has been told by the census that there are more women than men.
Her girlfriends are telling her to be wise and hold on to her straying man and so while he snoops and snoops and finds nothing, she makes minimal efforts and finds everything but does she ever mention it? Never.
The reason that hot new househelp gets a shaven head and the girlfriend is told jokingly to do her top buttons up is not because she does not trust her girlfriend or the maid but because she certainly does not trust her man.
Her man might ask the question a dozen times- “honey, do you trust me?” and her answer would be a big fat lying “Yes”

Rape, sexual harassment in Nigerian ivory towers. Who is at fault!

The Central Bank of Nigeria has directed banks to ensure to resolve all Automated Teller Machine (ATM) cardholders’ complaints within a maximum of 72 hours from the date of receipt the complaints or face sanctions. This is contained in a new set of rules to guide transactions, going forward.
Where records are falsified by any party, the CBN warns that adequate sanctions shall apply.
In an exposure draft on the standards and guidelines on electronic channels operations in Nigeria, signed Dipo Fatokun, its Director Banking and Payments System Department, the CBN also directed banks or independent organizations that deploy ATM for the use of the public to ensure that the ATM vault replenishment must be carried out as often as possible to avoid cash-out.
They are also to ensure that ATMs are not stocked with unfit notes and that cash is available in the machines at all time.
The CBN also warned that the ATM downtime (due to technical fault) must not be more than seventy-two (72) hours consecutively.
It added however, that where this is not practicable, customers shall be duly informed by the deployer.
They are also to ensure that the helpdesk contacts are adequately displayed at the ATM terminals.
It warned that at the minimum, a telephone line should be dedicated for fault reporting and such telephone line shall be functional and manned at all times that the ATM is operational.
Also, all ATM charges must be fully disclosed to customers, the CBN insists in the new rules.
The apex bank said that there must be appropriate monitoring mechanism to determine failure to dispense cash; and that there is online monitoring mechanism to determine ATM vault cash levels.
“Penalties Sanctions, in the form of monetary penalties / or suspension of the acquiring/processing service (s) or both, would be imposed on erring institutions for failure to comply with any of the provisions of the ATM standards and guidelines or any other relevant guidelines issued by the CBN from time to time,” the apex bank warned.
The funding and operation of the ATM deployed by non-bank institutions should be the sole responsibility of the bank or institutions that entered into agreement with them for cash provisioning and in this regard, the Service Level Agreement (SLA) should specify the responsibilities of each of the parties.
The CBN rules noted that Change of PIN must be provided to customers free of charge throughout the entire value chain, while acquirers monitor suspicious transactions and report statistics to CBN based on the agreed format and timeframe.
Back-up power (inverter) is made available at all ATM locations in such a way that the machine would not cease operation while in the middle of a transaction, the CBN said, adding that Waste disposal basket must be provided at all ATM locations.
A register of all their ATMs in Nigeria with location, identification, serial number of the machines, etc must also be maintained, going forward.
For security reasons, every ATM is required to have cameras which would view and record all ATM Security. “However, such cameras should not be able to record the key strokes of customers using the ATM,” the CBN further noted in the statement pasted on its website.
The CBN now requires any institution which operates an ATM to file an updated list of such machines, including the detail location of their addresses with its Banking & Payments System Department for compliance monitoring.
The CBN also disclosed that it will conduct onsite snap checking of ATMs with a view to ensuring compliance with cash and service availability at the ATMs, as it directed acquirers to report volume and value of transactions on monthly basis to its Director, Banking & Payments System Department.
- See more at: http://www.naijaloaded.com.ng/2015/09/16/cbn-hands-out-new-rules-on-atm-operations-in-nigeria/#sthash.wsxbjfaS.dpuf

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WHen Shola, who was a 300 Level student of Business Administration in University of Ibadan, was propositioned by one of her core course lecturers, a professor that students dreaded failing his course, little did she know what fate had in store for her. Shola said: “I was surprised when he made his intentions known to me because I was your normal everyday kind of girl who didn’t dress provocatively.  When I rejected his advances, he made it clear that it was either I gave in to him or spend an extra year in school.
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“I stood my grounds and had made up my mind to spend the extra year despite being one of the intelligent students in the department. When he saw that I was adamant and he knew he couldn’t defend failing me in the exams, he scored me 40 despite my best efforts.”
Today, Shola runs a successful human capacity training business. She is among the lucky few who escaped the clutches of randy lecturers and higher institution staff, especially as most students spend extra years till they give in to these demands.
Who’s at fault? Sexual harassment is bullying or coercion of a sexual nature, or the unwelcome or inappropriate promise of rewards in exchange for sexual favours. It is unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favours and other verbal or physical harassment of a sexual nature.
Nigerian ivory towers have moulded intellectuals that have shaped the destiny of this nation and have spawned icons, who are contributing their quota to national and global development. But these citadels of academic and moral excellence have, pathetically, become havens for randy lecturers, who specialize in sexual harassment, sexual gratification and, in most cases, rape.
That the internet is full of stories and images of how some lecturers, who were bent on sleeping with students before they would allow them graduate, were set up by would-be victims and their friends, have not deterred others from engaging in such acts. The question then is who is at fault for the rise in this malaise— the female students or lecturers.
‘The students’: A mother of two undergraduates and a post-graduate student herself, Mrs. Kate Oragui, emphatically lays the blame at the doorsteps of female students, who dress scantily and provocatively, especially those who she describes as ‘academically and morally bankrupt’.
She said “when I started my post-graduate programme at the University of Lagos, I was shocked to see female students wearing cloths that barely covered their nakedness and I wonder how they would not be sexually harassed or raped by men who can’t control their libido.
“It is boldly written at the school’s entrance that the way you dress determines how you would be addressed. So I wonder why female students can’t respect and cover their bodies. A good number of the victims are either morally or intellectually bankrupt and are willing to do anything to score high grades.”
Blaming the female students, a Combine Arts student of the University of Nigeria, Nsukka, who did not want her name in print, said: “The victims actually play a part in their predicament through their provocative dressing or manner of approaching the male lecturers.
“In cases where such lecturers make promises of good grades, I don’t think I would still consider that as rape. Be that as it may, these ‘good grades’ hardly turn out to be an ‘A’. Rather, it’s usually something less, degrading the self-worth of such a lady that succumbs to such sexual approaches.”
‘It’s lecturers, students, authorities’
Condemning the act in the strongest terms, a lecturer at the University of Benin, Dr. Daniel Ekharefo, blamed the lecturers, female students and school authorities for feeding this monster. He said: “I wonder the level of perversion of the individuals in such cases. Young people should avoid short cuts to success as many lecturers, who sleep with students, ride on the promise to give good grades to students but end up taking advantage of them.
“Unfortunately, the students, more often than not, are prepared to offer their bodies for marks. What is required therefore, is for students to read hard and stand firm. No lecturer can take advantage of a brilliant and intelligent student. “Lecturers need a moral re-awakening to the ethics of their profession and their place in nation building, and school authorities should open channels of communication where students can ventilate their grievances and report the unethical behaviour of their tutors.”
Victims speak up
A third year student of UNN (names withheld), who was sexually harassed by a lecturer, said she did the right and most moral thing by turning down the lecturer despite being promised a good grade.
She said: “It is just a mechanized way by randy male lecturers to satisfy their sexual urge. Some of them are just empty promises and those that go ahead to rape the students should be critically followed up by law enforcement agencies for appropriate punishment.
“It is a devilish act which should be stopped. I believe that students have the right to be listened to when such complains come up in a school environment. And female students should speak to the right persons about such harassment and avoid such lecturers.”
She suggested that ad hoc committees or councils be set up in every tertiary institution to specifically protect students and mete out punishments to offending lecturers or any offender, for that matter.
Another victim of sexual harassment, a National Diploma, ND, II student of Library and Information Science, Federal Polytechnic, Oko, Anambra State, who pleaded anonymity, noted that sexual harassment and rape are not new because they happen everyday in schools.
Recounting her experience, she said: “Most lecturers feel they can intimidate and threaten female students because, at the end of the day, they are the ones that would score them. So, they see this as a tool to achieve their evil plans. I was lucky because the lecturer involved wasn’t taking us on any core course. So I knew the consequences of calling his bluff would not be so bad.
“So serious was he about having his way with me that he even gave me money to go pay for a hotel room and wait for him at an appointed time. It was like telling the sheep to go wait for the butcher at the slaughter house. Being a sharp Lagos girl, I disappeared with the money after giving him false hope that I would be waiting for him.
“When he eventually saw me after some weeks, I gave one lame excuse and he said I was the first Lagos girl he came across that wasn’t loose as evident in my decent cloths. I guess he just wanted to try his luck with me.”
The way forward
In the words of one of the victims, lecturers who indulge in such acts should be severely punished to serve as a deterrent to others. She said: “I don’t think it would be too hard a consequence if our schools can be strict enough to withdraw the employment of anyone engaged in such act.
“Rape is not a minor issue and any lecturer caught in the act should be stripped of his position and publicly humiliated so that others would learn. Most of them go scot free and that is why they continue in those acts.”

The Central Bank of Nigeria has directed banks to ensure to resolve all Automated Teller Machine (ATM) cardholders’ complaints within a maximum of 72 hours from the date of receipt the complaints or face sanctions. This is contained in a new set of rules to guide transactions, going forward.
Where records are falsified by any party, the CBN warns that adequate sanctions shall apply.
In an exposure draft on the standards and guidelines on electronic channels operations in Nigeria, signed Dipo Fatokun, its Director Banking and Payments System Department, the CBN also directed banks or independent organizations that deploy ATM for the use of the public to ensure that the ATM vault replenishment must be carried out as often as possible to avoid cash-out.
They are also to ensure that ATMs are not stocked with unfit notes and that cash is available in the machines at all time.
The CBN also warned that the ATM downtime (due to technical fault) must not be more than seventy-two (72) hours consecutively.
It added however, that where this is not practicable, customers shall be duly informed by the deployer.
They are also to ensure that the helpdesk contacts are adequately displayed at the ATM terminals.
It warned that at the minimum, a telephone line should be dedicated for fault reporting and such telephone line shall be functional and manned at all times that the ATM is operational.
Also, all ATM charges must be fully disclosed to customers, the CBN insists in the new rules.
The apex bank said that there must be appropriate monitoring mechanism to determine failure to dispense cash; and that there is online monitoring mechanism to determine ATM vault cash levels.
“Penalties Sanctions, in the form of monetary penalties / or suspension of the acquiring/processing service (s) or both, would be imposed on erring institutions for failure to comply with any of the provisions of the ATM standards and guidelines or any other relevant guidelines issued by the CBN from time to time,” the apex bank warned.
The funding and operation of the ATM deployed by non-bank institutions should be the sole responsibility of the bank or institutions that entered into agreement with them for cash provisioning and in this regard, the Service Level Agreement (SLA) should specify the responsibilities of each of the parties.
The CBN rules noted that Change of PIN must be provided to customers free of charge throughout the entire value chain, while acquirers monitor suspicious transactions and report statistics to CBN based on the agreed format and timeframe.
Back-up power (inverter) is made available at all ATM locations in such a way that the machine would not cease operation while in the middle of a transaction, the CBN said, adding that Waste disposal basket must be provided at all ATM locations.
A register of all their ATMs in Nigeria with location, identification, serial number of the machines, etc must also be maintained, going forward.
For security reasons, every ATM is required to have cameras which would view and record all ATM Security. “However, such cameras should not be able to record the key strokes of customers using the ATM,” the CBN further noted in the statement pasted on its website.
The CBN now requires any institution which operates an ATM to file an updated list of such machines, including the detail location of their addresses with its Banking & Payments System Department for compliance monitoring.
The CBN also disclosed that it will conduct onsite snap checking of ATMs with a view to ensuring compliance with cash and service availability at the ATMs, as it directed acquirers to report volume and value of transactions on monthly basis to its Director, Banking & Payments System Department.
- See more at: http://www.naijaloaded.com.ng/2015/09/16/cbn-hands-out-new-rules-on-atm-operations-in-nigeria/#sthash.wsxbjfaS.dpuf

No Dull Yourself, Relationship is not by force. If Your Partner Shows Any Of These 8 Signs, My Dear Brake Up

According to Krystle Crossman of Healthy Black Woman, it is a sad and unfortunate fact that many women are in abusive relationships. It is  even more unfortunate fact that many of them don’t realize what path the relationship is headed down until it is too late.
Crossman lists some warning signs that you may be in an abusive relationship and should get out before it gets worse:
1. When you are around other people your partner likes to humiliate you: They will call you names and degrade you in front of anyone that you meet. They do this to have dominance in the relationship. They like to destroy your self-worth so that you feel like you don’t deserve anyone better.
2. You are not allowed to make your own decisions: They decide where you go, when you go, who you are friends with, and what you are allowed to wear. You have no control over your life anymore. Your independence is gone and they control every little thing that you do.
3. When you have done something that they don’t like or are not doing something they want they will threaten you: It may be a threat of physical harm or something else such as ending the relationship. Many women pa$$ this off because they feel that they are empty threats but they often turn into real threats which they act upon.
4. If they are spoken to about their abusive behavior they will pass the blame off on you stating that you deserved it: They will deny that they are doing anything wrong and state that if you didn’t do certain things they wouldn’t have to hurt you.
5. If you are financially dependent on them they will use money against you: They will threaten to leave and take everything. They will give you an “allowance” and not let you touch the money that comes in. They may even restrict you from working so that you depend completely on them for income.
6. They will limit or completely destroy any relationship that you have with your family and friends: They do not want you to talk to others about the relationship and they do not want other people putting ideas in your head. This gives them complete control.
7. If you have children together they will often use them against you: They will turn the children against you by lying to them. They will use the children as a bargaining tool if they feel like you are going to leave them.
8. They will make you fear them: Intimidation is a way for them to control you and make sure you do everything that they want. They want to make sure that you are afraid to do anything wrong and too afraid to leave.